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For example, if you're an artist and you know you'll do best with similar people, more power to you."Girls who know they want to date someone creative in order to better complement their personality would be considered to have a 'type' — they like creative" people, says Rogers."For instance, if you keep dating married men, you’ve got a type — married men." Let's all hope that is not your type, for your heart's sake."If you keep dating wealthy men who are conservative, you’ve got a type." Definitely not my type.She defines "type" as the pattern you've typically followed in your dating history."Your type is the similar pattern in your dating behavior," she says."People do talk about dating your type, but I think it is the wrong way to go, and a pattern to be broken," Better Help telehealth counselor and psychologist Nikki Martinez tells Bustle."When we pigeonhole ourselves with a certain type, we miss out on many people and opportunities that might actually be a better fit than what we assume is right for us." Keeping an open mind will make things a lot more fun for you, and afford you a better chance at finding someone right for you.
First off, if you're dating one particular type over and over and things aren't going well, it might be because you've fallen into a type trap. Fox recently told Khloé Kardashian on her talk show, Kocktails With Khloé, "the biggest problem I've probably had is that I dated body parts for way too long." Sounds like she has a type!
"I encourage my clients to get crystal-clear on their values and focus on how the man makes her feel and treats her," she says.
"In this way, expanding outside of her type allows for the relationship she desires to reveal itself sooner." So if you're set on a type, let it go — you'll have a better shot at finding someone actually worth your time."People do tend to have types, especially if they live in homogenous communities," New York–based relationship expert and author April Masini tells Bustle.
"All at first glance looked like very girly-girls, but then upon further reflection I remembered the adventurous activities we enjoyed and the swagger they all had and were unquestionably just like one of the guys but smelled much better," he says.
Ultimately, he concluded that his type is a “lipstick tomboy." Good to know!